Not sure why or how, but I have fallen completely in love with my friend Annie's baby boy. For the first time, I got to experience a close friend get pregnant, give birth, and then bam - a baby. I first met him when he was only one week old, and it was love at first sight.
And the love affair continues. I got to visit him yesterday and he is already six weeks old! His eyes open and he is able to stare and hold a gaze, so we had some tender moments. What a miracle.
I feel so lucky and privileged to be a part of his life and of Annie's. So much gratitude.... xoxoxo
Monday, February 27, 2017
Breaking free from the cocoon
I had a really fun weekend and realized that the strongest impediment to trying new things is a reluctance, maybe even laziness, to get out of my comfort zone. I am not sure when I started getting this "comfortable" but it is a main reason that my life became boring.
Now, I definitely understand why I went down this road. Being comfortable is so seductive. It is safe and familiar and there is just enough pleasure to keep one satisfied. This is the cocoon that my favorite Buddhist teacher Chogyam Trungpa used to talk about, explaining that it is “an enclosed familiar world in which we can hide or go to sleep…The way of cowardice is to embed ourselves in a cocoon…perpetuate habitual patterns. When we are constantly recreating our basic patterns of behavior and thought, we never have to leap into fresh air or onto fresh ground.”
The good news is that I have woken up within my cocoon and realized where I was. I must thank the Shambhala tradition for instilling in me these spiritual concepts and wisdoms, because this teaching - which I learned about 10 years ago - came to help me at the exact moment I needed it. And I chose to leave my safe cocoon and look for some fresh air.
Now, I definitely understand why I went down this road. Being comfortable is so seductive. It is safe and familiar and there is just enough pleasure to keep one satisfied. This is the cocoon that my favorite Buddhist teacher Chogyam Trungpa used to talk about, explaining that it is “an enclosed familiar world in which we can hide or go to sleep…The way of cowardice is to embed ourselves in a cocoon…perpetuate habitual patterns. When we are constantly recreating our basic patterns of behavior and thought, we never have to leap into fresh air or onto fresh ground.”
The good news is that I have woken up within my cocoon and realized where I was. I must thank the Shambhala tradition for instilling in me these spiritual concepts and wisdoms, because this teaching - which I learned about 10 years ago - came to help me at the exact moment I needed it. And I chose to leave my safe cocoon and look for some fresh air.
“In the cocoon there is no idea of light at all, until we experience some longing for openness. When we begin to examine that comfortable darkness—look at it, smell it, feel it—we find it is claustrophobic. So the first impulse that draws us away from the darkness towards the light of the Great Eastern Sun [a vision of enlightened society, helping others] is a longing for ventilation. As soon as we begin to sense the possibility of fresh air, we realize that our arms and legs are being restricted. We want to stretch out and walk, dance even jump. We realize that there is an alternative to cocoon: we discover that we could be free from that trap. With that longing for fresh air, for a breeze of delight, we open our eyes, and we begin to look for an alternative environment…And to our surprise, we begin to see light, even though it may be hazy at first. The tearing of the cocoon begins at that point. When we look back to the cocoon and see the suffering that takes place in the world of the coward, that inspires us to go forward in our journey of warriorship.”So I think my little adventure is about warriorship, in the sense that Trungpa talks about it. His teachings hold so much wisdom and seem perfect for me in this current phase, so I am going to go back and explore more....
The point of the Shambhala training is to get out of the cocoon, which is the shyness and aggression in which we have wrapped ourselves.
In the Shambhala tradition, we talk about being a warrior. I would like to make it clear that a warrior, in this case, is not someone who wages war. A Shambhala warrior is someone who is brave enough not to give in to the aggression and contradictions that exist in society. A warrior, or pawo in Tibetan, is a brave person, a genuine person who is able to step out of the cocoon—that very comfortable cocoon that he or she is trying to sleep in.
If you are in your cocoon, occasionally you shout your complaints, such as: “Leave me alone!” “Bug off.” “I want to be who I am.” Your cocoon is fabricated out of tremendous aggression, which comes from fighting against your environment, your parental upbringing, your educational upbringing, your upbringing of all kinds. You don’t really have to fight with your cocoon. You can raise your head and just take a little peek out of the cocoon. Sometimes, when you first peek your head out, you find the air a bit too fresh and cold. But still, it is good. It is the best fresh air of spring or autumn or, for that matter, the best fresh air of winter or summer. So when you stick your neck out of the cocoon for the first time, you like it in spite of the discomfort of the environment. You find that it’s delightful. Then, having peeked out, you become brave enough to climb out of the cocoon. You sit on your cocoon and look around at your world. You stretch your arms, and you begin to develop your head and shoulders. The environment is friendly. It is called “planet earth.”
The world around you is so fine and beautiful that you know that you can raise yourself up as a warrior, a powerful person. You begin to feel that the world is absolutely workable, not even merely workable, but wonderful. To your surprise, you find that lots of others around you are also leaving their cocoons. You find hosts of ex-cocooners all over the place. As ex-cocooners, we feel that we can be dignified and wonderful people. We do not have to reject anything at all. As we step out of our cocoons, we find goodness and gratefulness taking place in us all the time.
Sunday, February 26, 2017
Saturday, February 25, 2017
Glitter and rocks
I had such a lovely day, and it was the little things that brought me that extra spark of energy and joy. Glitter was a big theme of the day, and pink. Wore my favorite perfume and some glitter eye shadow, although wasn't even dressing up for anything in particular. In fact, I was hoping to go to the park but then it stormed.
But the storm passed and the sun came out, and I caught a beautiful rainbow. It is hard to see, but there - shining just for me. :)
Since the weather wasn't cooperating, we stayed indoors and played with rocks. Josh has a rock tumbler and we had gathered a ton of rocks during a trip to the park last week.
This the before picture.....and now they are going to be tumbling for a couple months. Yes, months! But it will be well worth it - here are some that were previously polished, look how beautiful!
And I couldn't resist taking one of the stones, which had a natural hole, and covering it up with glitter and making it into a strobe light in my car. I love it!
Then I got to enjoy two of my favorite things - Leo and flowers.
But the storm passed and the sun came out, and I caught a beautiful rainbow. It is hard to see, but there - shining just for me. :)
Since the weather wasn't cooperating, we stayed indoors and played with rocks. Josh has a rock tumbler and we had gathered a ton of rocks during a trip to the park last week.
And I couldn't resist taking one of the stones, which had a natural hole, and covering it up with glitter and making it into a strobe light in my car. I love it!
Then I got to enjoy two of my favorite things - Leo and flowers.
Where are you?
I came across this video and have been watching it compulsively. Every time I see it, it fills me with inspiration. And calls out to my soul, inviting me to come out and play.
Where are you, little girl with broken wings but full of hope?
There is no reason to hide.
Where are you, little girl with broken wings but full of hope?
Where are you, wise woman covered in wounds?
Where are you,
where are you,
where are you?
where are you,
where are you?
Today is the day I will not sit still anymore.
Today, I rise.
I am bruised
But I will get up and walk again.
Today I rise.
Through the alchemy of my darkest nights,
I heal and thrive.
Today I rise.
I will walk my path with audacity.
Today I rise.
I am a Queen.
I am a healer.
A wise woman.
A wild woman.
I will rise,
and be.
and be.
I am a rebel,
I will wake up and fight.
I will wake up and fight.
I will no longer disguise my sadness and pain.
I will no longer suffer and complain.
There is no reason to hide.
Where are you,
where are you,
where are you?
where are you,
where are you?
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